Harmonica85
07-16-2010, 06:47 PM
Hi
Have being going out with OH for three years. Mostly things are great but a few of the same arguments have been popping up repeatedly, he's not affectionate enough he says he is just not the kinda of guy whereas I think maybe its because I'm not "the one". I get frustrated because we don't do new stuff together seems to be the same anytime we meet up, hang at his house, cinema or food. We go out to the pub a few times but I'm not really a big drinker. Then when I suggest something different he's all I don't mind but I know he doesnt want to. He doesnt like coming out with me and my friends or going to family things. Anyway recently after another talk he said sometimes he feels like we are just friends and he's not sure if he loves me like a girlfriend. I was devastated it was horrible alot of tears. But then he says he loves me and doesnt want to hurt me and he's not sure if he wants to break up but he says he hasnt been happy recently. So we agree to try harder but he still hasnt decided if he loves loves me. He says he needs time and can't just decide its a big decision! That makes me feel better because I love him and don't want to break up but things havent been great but I just thought all relationships have their ups and downs. So basically part of me feels like we are just going through a really long break up. I can't relax I am reading into everything! Should it be this hard?
Have being going out with OH for three years. Mostly things are great but a few of the same arguments have been popping up repeatedly, he's not affectionate enough he says he is just not the kinda of guy whereas I think maybe its because I'm not "the one". I get frustrated because we don't do new stuff together seems to be the same anytime we meet up, hang at his house, cinema or food. We go out to the pub a few times but I'm not really a big drinker. Then when I suggest something different he's all I don't mind but I know he doesnt want to. He doesnt like coming out with me and my friends or going to family things. Anyway recently after another talk he said sometimes he feels like we are just friends and he's not sure if he loves me like a girlfriend. I was devastated it was horrible alot of tears. But then he says he loves me and doesnt want to hurt me and he's not sure if he wants to break up but he says he hasnt been happy recently. So we agree to try harder but he still hasnt decided if he loves loves me. He says he needs time and can't just decide its a big decision! That makes me feel better because I love him and don't want to break up but things havent been great but I just thought all relationships have their ups and downs. So basically part of me feels like we are just going through a really long break up. I can't relax I am reading into everything! Should it be this hard?